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Let’s talk about the holidays. That magical time of year that’s all about family. And by “family,” it often means the relatives you were born into or the partner you’re supposed to have. For those who don’t fit the Hallmark mold, this season can feel isolating. The holiday season is when
So, you’ve decided to pimp out your dating profile with a dog photo. Smart move! Dogs can seriously boost your match rate on dating apps. In fact, research shows that 63% of singles are more likely to swipe right on a profile with a dog photo. If you want to read more about why dog photos are effect
I have several clients on the autism spectrum who frequently express frustration in their search for a partner. It’s something that hits quite close to home for me, because my boyfriend, who I deeply love and share a home with, has ASD (Autism Spectrum Disorder). Many people on the spectr
Have you ever found a spare $500 in your pocket and thought to yourself, “man, I wish I could use this to make online dating vaguely more interesting?” Yeah, me neither. Lucky for us, Tinder is now offering the solution to a problem we didn’t even know we had in the form of Tinder Select.
Is your profile full of photos staring blankly into the camera or attempting the “introspectively-lost-in-thought” vibe? Do you hate your smile so much that you’ve tried 30 different versions of stoic before giving up and asking Google? I’ve gotchu. Prep Work
Three years ago I was a poor graduate student a few semesters away from finishing my masters degree in clinical social work. I randomly posted to Reddit offering to help people improve their dating profiles with the hope that I’d earn a couple of bucks and be able to buy some groceries… and now I’m
Do you know how many kings ordered their brides from across the world and got pissed when they looked nothing like their portrait? Like, a lot of them. Can you believe it?!? When they ordered their human wives out of a catalog, they looked nothing like their photos! Those poor, poor kings.&n
Trigger warning: subjects of sexual abuse, manipulation, and gaslighting This blog isn’t about vengeance or anger. It’s not about sexual assault. It’s not even about consent. My emotions are too charged to touch those topics right now. This blog is about how gifted humans are at blaming ourselves
Why do girls ghost? It’s rude, frustrating, and it leads to confusion and hurt feelings. It sucks to match with a girl who never responds to your messages, or to have a few conversations with someone who ultimately disappears without warning. This blog isn’t intended to excuse or defend ghosting. It
So you’re staring at your dating profile and wondering what you’re doing wrong. Probably lots of things, but one of them is almost certainly that your profile is riddled with qualifiers.  What’s a qualifier, you may be asking? Well bud, it’s a big ole firing squad having a go at your datin
Photos are, without a doubt, the most important part of any dating profile… and the most dreaded. As a dating coach I’m asked on a daily basis for the most efficient and least painful ways to get them taken. Most of my clients don’t feel comfortable asking a friend for help or paying hundreds of dol
“To Err is Human”, or at least that’s what Alexander Pope said. Sure, he was one of the greatest poets of all time, but he was also kind of a jerk and he knew nothing about online dating. When it comes to dating apps, “To Err is to buy a ticket to Left-Swipe Town. Population: You”. It’s a bit long
I have Covid19, and it sucks. My whole body aches like the morning after a 16hr workout, the trek from my bedroom to the kitchen feels like hiking, and 100% of the time I’ve gotten a shower I’ve ended up sitting on the floor with my head between my legs and wheezing like a 90yr old smoker. Also, I p
In many parts of the world, Coronavirus is wreaking havoc on people’s lives. Businesses are temporarily closing, parts of the world have been quarantined, people are starting to self-quarantine, and everyone is a bit wary. I’ve had several clients contact me to vent about dates being canceled becaus
Most of my clients since the pandemic are struggling with conversations that lag or die out because they’re unable to transition from the dating app to an actual date. The struggle is understandable. It’s really hard to maintain a dynamic conversation via text for a long period of time. The conver
Ok, so you’ve got your profile exactly how you want it. You’re looking fly as hell in your pics. Your bio looks like it was written by an emotionally available, witty, flirtatious god, and you’re ready to go live… but then you realize that all of your photos are solo.  Are your matches goi
I’ve heard the phrase “fear is a powerful motivator” a million times... And sure, it can be. If you’re trapped in a burning building, the fear of being burned alive can push you into crawling out the window to scale the outside wall. The fear of choking to death will have you body-slamming yourself
Sometimes I feel like being a dating consultant is kinda like being a Medium. I can’t fight the evil spirits for you. I just do my best to warn you and sometimes I have to watch you get eaten for lunch. So, welcome to my instructional guide for how to recognize when the person you’re dating is liter
You know that feeling of introspective stillness that happens when you’re able to look at a traumatic event with a bit of distance and clarity? I woke up this morning feeling ready to talk, so let’s talk.  Dating Consultants are People Too Being a dating consultant is weird, because I h
Racial preference… it’s a loaded phrase that comes with  a lot of strong emotion. Some people believe it’s based in racism, while others argue it’s a normal part of attraction. Personally, I’m in the unspoken third camp of people who tend to date all over the spectrum of the rainbow. In a
Bread crumbs. They’re delicious crunchy bits of carby goodness. They enhance basically any recipe, they can be used to manipulate small winged creatures into being your friend, and they’re superb for abandoning small German children in witch-infested forests. Recently though, the term has been used
Relationships are social contracts. The complexity of the relationship increases the complexity of the contract, but even casual dating requires mutual understanding. It’s how human beings develop a sense of safety and security in our environment. There are unwritten rules in place that keep everyon
Have you been trapped in your house for a month? Starting to feel desperate for some stimulation? Any stimulation? Getting a little too excited when the shower curtain brushes up against you? Yeah, me too. There’s a global pandemic going on, social distancing is important for everyone’s safety… bu