Atypical Late Bloomer - Health

A Hair Style

I've never had long hair. Much more of a man's military haircut. That's how my father (the cop) wore his hair, although he dirt flirt with t...

Trans Decision Making is More Complex

I've had a medical problem for the last five years. It's an effect of having diabetes for 40 years. It leaves me wanting to be near a city w...

A Hospital Experience

I checked into a hospital in the South for a full knee replacement. It was a well run facility with a good reputation. They asked me about...

My Browser Keeps Me Honest

Every time I open my browser, it asks: who are you? Who are you today? It offers me a choice between my firstName, which is soon to be ...

Ship of Theseus

I visited a friend this week. A solid conservative, yet a good, decent, thoughtful person. I had a gift for him - a lamp which I'd seen t...

Goldfish Don't See the Bowl

I have for about the last 25 years (I am old!) found some explanation in a phrase of my own: Goldfish Don't See the Bowl. What I mean by t...

Nothing Arrests Me like my Own Fears

I was told, when I was young, that nothing offends a person as much as something they believe themselves. Boy (which is probably a term I ...

Nice Transgender Femme website

Video killed the radio st...

Torrid for the win!

At this point in my transition, 3 years HRT, 66 years old, my clothing is almost exclusively from thrift stores. It's relatively pain-free. ...

Lee Shevek: A Zine, A Woman Can Be Any Gender He Wants To Be

Ordered a zine from Lee Shevek here , I think it's going to be pretty interesting. Front page art here:

Progesterone and Kamala Harris' Mother

< Wikipedia says it's true , so it must be.

Pushing My Trans Buttons

When I was younger, and somebody went off on a topic, and my children were there, we would signal to each other and touch a Button on ...

Iggy Pop, my friends

Relationships vs Change

One partner starts smoking when neither smoked. One partner stops drinking when they both drank quite a bit. One partner starts doing Ayahu...

The Only Thing You Could Do (Mary White)

A very-late-bloomer boomer becoming myself. <p>We shall not cease from exploration<br> And the end of all our exploring<br> Will be to arrive where we started<br> And know the place for the first time<br> <a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/T._S._Eliot">T.S. Eliot</a></p> <p>We say 'mental health', but we mean 'mental illness'</p>

Mad'm-ed from a stranger

I was in a dog park with a doggy I'm watching, presenting femme, and a man (who also had a dog in the park) referred to me as "mad'm". Reall...

NPR: Older Trans People & Support Groups

A very-late-bloomer boomer becoming myself. <p>We shall not cease from exploration<br> And the end of all our exploring<br> Will be to arrive where we started<br> And know the place for the first time<br> <a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/T._S._Eliot">T.S. Eliot</a></p> <p>We say 'mental health', but we mean 'mental illness'</p>

Will and Harper, a road-trip movie

Article at https://www.them.us/story/will-ferrell-trans-best-friend-road-trip-documentary-will-and-harper

Klonopin by Ah-Mer-Ah-Su

More abou the artist, a SFO trans woman:             NPR/KQED             Spotify             Insta             ...

A gender-swapping photo app helped Lucy Sante come out as trans at age 67

A very-late-bloomer boomer becoming myself. <p>We shall not cease from exploration<br> And the end of all our exploring<br> Will be to arrive where we started<br> And know the place for the first time<br> <a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/T._S._Eliot">T.S. Eliot</a></p> <p>We say 'mental health', but we mean 'mental illness'</p>

Love me, love my Fingernails

There are aspects of being Trans, of presenting femme, that I am so into and I feel they are so essential, and then there are aspects that f...

A Veteran Administration LGBT Experience

I had a really good experience with a local VA facility. I called and asked for the LTBT Liaison's contact info. Called them, sent an e...

Being both Frankenstein (he/him) and The Monster (they/them)

I am transitioning, Male To Female. I am not rushing it. I am steadily moving from one pole of the circus tent to the other pole, moving alo...

I wish I could do Eyeshadow like that

A few days ago I did a thing where I fainted / passed out, twirled around in the tiny kitchen I was standing in, and collapsed while spinni...

Atypical Late Bloomer: An Older's Mental Health Blog

Too long and no posts, especially in a writing project that's supposed to be for my benefit and not really yours, dear Assumed Reader.

Queer Frameworks vs the Pigeonholes

Frankenstein's Miracle

I am a little over a year into HRT, over a year into thrifting, over a year into having one place where I can buy shoes. But I've got a sta...

a new horizon of coming out

A long time between posts. I've been on HRT for 15 months now. It feels really good. Euphoric would apply. Today I came out to my friend B....

Something's Going On With Me : Femininity

I have within the last ten days come to recognize that Something's Going On With Me. It's been there for a while. Now I have the "world eno...

Kudos to Sephora: Classes for Trans Confidence

There's a lot of challenges in beginning to present cross-gender. The clothes, the shoes, the accessories are an expense, and can be a sign...

Goldfish Don't See the Bowl aka <br>Queering the Pigeonholes

click to embiggen in new window. click to embiggen in new window.   This is a bit of art I'm working on, and it certainly has ...

The Nature of Life is Torment

The nature of life is torment; a struggle between need, want, and have- first for ourselves, then our progeny We tie ourselves in kn...

Non-Standard Quirky, Formerly Normal

I've realized over this year or two that I'm not a standard person. I don't fit into anybody's view of normal. I used to think I was norm...

Phylogeny, Bisexuality, & Why Fish Don't Exist

Heard a tremendous NPR 8-minute interview with LuLu Miller , author of Why Fish Don't Exist , about how false or unhelpful categorizations ...

Bisexual and Not Alternating MonoSexualities

BiSexuality is a curious topic that people have Feelings about. I was recently pleased to read Dee's three posts: I Am Bisexual , Bise...

Trauma Decontextualized: Personality, Families, Culture

“Trauma decontextualized in a person looks like personality. Trauma decontextualized in a family looks like family traits. Trauma in a peopl...

A rose by any other name: Queering Pigeonholes

I've been asked (by a friend) to explain myself categorically, that is: to label myself, to submit myself to the mainstream's categories, fo...

Peak Anxiety (so far)

I've had a dual diagnosis of depression and anxiety for decades. I think the meds I have serve me pretty well. I'm rarely too deep into thes...

MisGendered

I was called " mad'm " by a youngster today at a drive-through window. I was not unhappy about it. Our language that requires others to cor...

Safety and Risk while queering the gender normas

I have dresssed up en femme a few times now. I got my kit, my basic bag of clothing, from a few thrift stores. The ones in the richer nei...