A parent writes to Janet that she’s alarmed and heartbroken about the wedge that’s developed between her and her 4-year-old son, “a very sweet, genuine, kind little person,” due to his increasingly unkind, hurtful behavior. This mom feels she’s tried everything and yet her son continues to hit, kick, pinch, scratch, and run away from … Continued

Janet Lansbury

05.03.2025

Stop Whining - Janet Lansbury

Our child’s whining can be the most earsplitting sound imaginable and, unfortunately, our negative reactions to whining can tend to make matters worse. How do we make the whining stop? A parent writes to Janet that her 7-year-old is constantly whining, pouting, and repeatedly asking her mom for new stuff. “Instead of playing with the entire … Continued

Janet Lansbury

27.02.2025

The Joy in Letting Babies Move Freely (with Elsa Chahin) - Janet Lansbury

Elsa Chahin, President/CEO of Pikler/Loczy USA, has dedicated herself to carrying on the mission of visionary pediatrician and researcher Dr. Emmi Pikler, which is to promote “respectful and harmonious relationships between the youngest child and the adult.” Like Janet, Elsa is also RIE Associate who studied under Pikler protege Magda Gerber. Elsa joins Janet in … Continued

Janet Lansbury

21.02.2025

Too Needy, Too Stubborn, Too Emotional, Too Bossy, Too . . . - Janet Lansbury

Parenting and worry seem to go hand-in-hand. Because we care so much, we watch our kids closely and can tend to perceive their traits and behaviors in a needlessly negative, worrisome light. In this episode, Janet explains why traits like sensitivity, bossiness, a toddler’s insistence on doing it himself, and another child’s seemingly constant need … Continued

Janet Lansbury

15.02.2025

If Consequences Aren't Working, Try This Instead - Janet Lansbury

A parent with 2 children, 4 and 1.5-years-old, writes to Janet feeling disappointed and concerned that he’s letting his children down. This dad admits that he’s very sensitive to both his children’s emotions, especially if they’re upset. In order to deal with their typical, rambunctious behaviors, he’s attempted to set reasonable boundaries with consequences in … Continued

Janet Lansbury

15.02.2025

I Don't Like My Kids, and That Breaks My Heart (A Parent Consultation) - Janet Lansbury

Janet consults with a distressed parent of two boys who feels stuck in a destructive pattern. She describes how she’s struggling with feeling constantly irritated, overwhelmed, and just angry. “I love my kids more than anything,” she says, “but they’re driving me crazy.” Janet agrees with the mom that boundaries are a big part the … Continued

Janet Lansbury

23.01.2025

Crying, Screaming, Resisting, Sadness - Your Best Responses to Kids' Emotions - Janet Lansbury

Raising kids is a learning process, and (no doubt) there’s a benefit to reflecting on the mistakes we make along the way. But Janet believes we can learn even more when we recognize and appreciate our successes, no matter how inconsequential they might seem to us as the time. Maybe it’s the little bit of … Continued

Janet Lansbury

23.01.2025

Resolving Our Kids' Annoying Behaviors - Janet Lansbury

Janet addresses messages from parents who are feeling defeated and helpless in the face of their kids’ persistently uncooperative, annoying and, in one case, hurtful behavior. All of these parents admit they are struggling, and that the approaches they’ve tried just don’t seem to be working. “… I am constantly getting at my child, telling her ‘No, … Continued

Janet Lansbury

07.01.2025

Embrace the Privilege of Parenthood (With Neha Ruch) - Janet Lansbury

Janet’s guest this week is Neha Ruch, a writer and speaker on parenting, women, work, and identity. Her personal journey from career through parenthood led her to question and ultimately reject society’s stereotypical view of the stay-at-home parent and its limitations, and instead celebrate the possibilities. Neha is the founder of Mother Untitled (.com), which … Continued

Janet Lansbury

21.12.2024

5 Daily Discipline Reminders - Janet Lansbury

Wouldn’t parenting be easier if our kids’ behavior was always stellar? Unfortunately, for most of us that isn’t the case. It is during those difficult times especially, when our child is tired or hungry or angry (or their behavior just seems terrible and we’re mystified as to what’s gotten into them), that they need us … Continued

Janet Lansbury

10.12.2024

How to Calm Ourselves (With Mr. Chazz) - Janet Lansbury

By now, we’ve all heard that Step One for effectively addressing our kids’ behaviors and emotional storms is to first calm ourselves. Sounds simple, but as Janet has often shared, she believes this to be the biggest challenge we as parents face. Here’s good news: Janet’s guest this week is dynamic and passionate educator Mr. … Continued

Janet Lansbury

27.11.2024

Erratic, Unreasonable Behavior - Janet Lansbury

A mother reaches out to Janet because her 3-year old’s behavior has recently become erratic and unpleasant, and she’s struggling to make sense of it. She writes that her boy is strong-willed, smart, kind, high energy and wonderful to be around. But lately he’s quick to anger, throws things, screams NO to simple requests, is … Continued

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21.11.2024

Less Stress, More Joy This Holiday Season (With Ashlee Eiland) - Janet Lansbury

Does the holiday season really need to be so overwhelming? Janet admits she gets caught up in the bustle and excitement of holiday festivities. While her intention every year is to pare down to make more room for meaningful moments with her loved ones, she still finds herself shopping until the last minute for the … Continued

Janet Lansbury

13.11.2024

My Life With Adult Kids - Janet Lansbury

Does respectful parenting work? How does it look as our kids get older and more independent? Does our approach to relationship building change and if so, how? Will our early efforts pay off? In response to a listener’s questions, Janet discusses the challenges, rewards, and surprises she’s experiencing as her three babies have become adults. … Continued

Janet Lansbury

07.11.2024

When Kids Don't Seem Motivated (to Potty, Crawl, or Create) - Janet Lansbury

What do we do if we know our kids can practice a new skill, and yet they don’t or won’t? Three families reach out to Janet with concerns about their children’s developmental progress. In one case, a 12-month-old doesn’t seem interested in crawling, and the parent has been advised to try to make this happen. A second … Continued

Janet Lansbury

29.10.2024

Kids Don't Need Intensive Parenting (and Neither do We!) - Janet Lansbury

The US Surgeon General warns that parents today are feeling increasingly stressed and burnt out. Obviously, this is unhealthy for us and for our children. Several societal factors are thought to contribute to this issue. The good news is that one of them is in our power to control: Intensive Parenting. Sociologists describe intensive parenting … Continued

Janet Lansbury

17.10.2024

Is Disrespect a Tantrum in Disguise? - Janet Lansbury

A 7-year-old has been behaving rudely toward his parents by giving them “attitude” and resisting when they give him directions. He says rebellious things, reacts strongly to minor disappointments, and even gets physically aggressive. The mom writes: “I feel at a loss for how to correct this perceived defiance…We’re at a new low for us. … Continued

Janet Lansbury

09.10.2024

What’s Too Strict? What’s Not Strict Enough? - Janet Lansbury

Parenting is a tough job and, if you’re like many of us, navigating effective discipline is the most challenging part of it. We need clarity! For this reason, many have appreciated Janet’s recent episode: “Strict is Loving”. You’ve also had questions—lots of questions—in regard to walking (what can seem to be) the fine line between … Continued

Janet Lansbury

02.10.2024

Character Building Lessons You Want Your Kids to Learn - Janet Lansbury

Progress not perfection… Be thankful for what you have… It’s okay not to win… Embrace differences… Follow your own path… It’s okay to cry… We all have life lessons that we hope to instill in our kids. Many of you shared yours with Janet on Facebook recently. What are the most effective ways to teach these lessons? As with … Continued

Janet Lansbury

24.09.2024

Triggered Again: Understanding Our Reactions to Kids' Behaviors (With Elisabeth Corey) - Janet Lansbury

Trauma survivor Elisabeth Corey returns to ‘Unruffled’ to share healing insights she’s gained from her intense struggles as a parent of twins. The emotional reactions our kids stir up in us can take us by surprise. Worse, they can keep us feeling stuck repeating dynamics with our kids that seem to be driving us apart. … Continued

Janet Lansbury

18.09.2024

Strict is Loving - Janet Lansbury

Janet’s “all feelings allowed” approach to parenting is sometimes misconstrued as permissive, passive, lax on boundaries. But as Janet clarifies in this episode, the exact opposite is true! She describes how acquiescing to our kids’ whims and demands, giving them multiple chances to comply with our directions, or making it our job to console them … Continued

Janet Lansbury

11.09.2024

Am I Ruining My Child With Respectful Parenting? (A Parent Consultation) - Janet Lansbury

A mom fears that her gentle, respectful approach to her toddler’s feelings and behaviors is too permissive and isn’t teaching her to treat others with kindness and respect. She says she’s been following Janet’s approach from the beginning, but when her daughter kicks and screams and generally melts down, she can’t help but question if simply … Continued

Janet Lansbury

11.09.2024

Everything Upsets My Spirited Toddler (A Parent Consultation) - Janet Lansbury

Janet consults with a single mom who is alarmed by her toddler’s strong reactions and aggressive behavior. She seems easily and almost constantly upset—hits, pushes, and bites her mother and brother—and won’t be consoled. “When she is crying for a little while because of me taking something away, I console her and say, ‘I know … Continued

Janet Lansbury

26.08.2024

3 Ways to Calm Back-to-School Jitters - Janet Lansbury

Starting a new school, going back to school, or starting daycare is one of the most challenging transitions for our kids—and us—at this early stage of their lives. It means a new routine, new caregivers and friends, and many unknowns. It’s normal for both parent and child to feel some trepidation, and it’s rare that … Continued

Janet Lansbury

21.08.2024

Help Kids Realize Their Potential With the Power of Less (With Kim John Payne) - Janet Lansbury

When we’re concerned about our kids’ behavior, their stress and difficult moods, a lack of motivation, or an overall sense that we’re not in harmony with them — the solution almost certainly comes down to “less.” In this episode, Janet is joined by Kim John Payne, M.ED., renowned family consultant, lecturer, and author of the … Continued

Janet Lansbury

21.08.2024

Baffled by "Bad" Behavior? Do This First - Janet Lansbury

When our kids’ behavior seems negative or inappropriate, we know we should disallow it. But what if the behavior continues? Or goes from bad to worse? What is our child needing from us or telling us that we’re missing? There’s often a simple, yet easy to overlook, answer. In this episode, Janet responds to notes from … Continued

Janet Lansbury

08.08.2024

The Scoop on Independent Play (And Myths That Get in the Way) - Janet Lansbury

Children are innately driven to play, and the benefits are enormous. They’re also driven to seek our attention and connection, so how can we encourage our kids’ play without becoming their constant playmate? In this episode Janet dispels seven common misunderstandings that make the lifelong habit (and gift) of self-directed play much more challenging to foster. … Continued

Janet Lansbury

31.07.2024

Surviving a Storm of Emotions - Janet Lansbury

Our child’s uncomfortable feelings can manifest in many ways, the most obvious being tantrums, meltdowns, or long lasting monsoonal crying jags. Often, those feelings are expressed in behaviors, sometimes aggressive. The two emails Janet addresses in this episode come from parents whose kids’ rocky moods and behaviors are persistent, no matter how much patience, love, … Continued

Janet Lansbury

21.07.2024

Potty Learning: What Kids Need From Us - Janet Lansbury

Potty training is always an adventure, and it can be a confusing, sometimes frustrating experience. There are countless books on the subject, and there’s plenty of advice from both experts and well-meaning friends and family. Since every child’s process is unique to them and depends on so many internal and external influences, it’s difficult to … Continued

Janet Lansbury

17.07.2024

Angry Flare-Ups - And He’s Only One Year Old (A Parent Consultation) - Janet Lansbury

A parent consults with Janet about her one-year-old who screams, cries, “loses it anytime he’s picked up and moved to do something else or is told he can’t go somewhere.” She’s concerned that it’s too early for this type of behavior, wonders how to respond and if she’s doing something wrong. Janet shares her perspective and … Continued

Janet Lansbury

04.07.2024

Family Games Your Kids Will Love - Janet Lansbury

Does your family have any extra downtime this summer? This may be the perfect time to introduce your kids to some simple, giggle-inducing, creative games to play anytime and almost anywhere. I have ideas for you! These are games my kids begged me to play over and over again that would never fail to crack … Continued

Janet Lansbury

27.06.2024

Whining - Janet Lansbury

A whining child can show relentless persistence and stamina, can wear away at our will to hold our ground, and maintain our boundaries and temper. We may lose confidence and second guess ourselves: Am I doing something wrong? Am I being too rigid? Maybe I can put off my shower for an hour and play … Continued

Janet Lansbury

19.06.2024

How to Make Peace With Your Demanding Child - Janet Lansbury

A parent worries her 3-year-old needs more connection, but the attention that she and her partner give him never seems to be enough, even when they make themselves available for play. He demands they play a certain way, sometimes refuses to participate, throws his toys and has tantrums when they try to hold their ground. … Continued

Janet Lansbury

10.06.2024

Parenting Differently Wired Kids (with Debbie Reber) - Janet Lansbury

Tilt Parenting founder Debbie Reber joins Janet to discuss the unique challenges families face as they learn to understand and support a child with ADHD, autism, learning disabilities, giftedness, processing challenges, twice-exceptionality, or other neurodifferences. While Debbie’s advice is especially powerful for parents of neurodivergent kids, her insights will resonate with every parent. As she says, “None … Continued

Janet Lansbury

03.06.2024

Raising Kids Who Persist Through Struggles - Janet Lansbury

We all want our kids to proceed through life with confidence as they develop physically, mentally, and emotionally. Because we care so much, it can be difficult for us to watch them struggle when faced with a challenge or a new skill. It’s especially tough to see them becoming so frustrated that they give up … Continued

Janet Lansbury

30.05.2024

Frustration, Screaming, Aggressive Behavior – When Kids Aren’t Functioning Well - Janet Lansbury

Our kids’ behavior can be mystifying, aggravating, worrying, and sometimes even infuriating. While the answers for resolving our concerns tend to be specific and unique to each particular situation, there are also general themes that can guide us. Janet explores one such theme in this week’s episode and explains how it applies to 3 different … Continued

Janet Lansbury

22.05.2024

7 Tools to Empower Your Parenting - Janet Lansbury

We all experience difficult moments with our kids, and it’s not uncommon for us to lose confidence in ourselves or feel stuck. Need a parenting boost? In this special episode, Janet shares 7 of her go-to parenting power tools, mindsets, and mantras geared to help you focus your energies most effectively and (if needed) make positive, … Continued

Janet Lansbury

15.05.2024

Feeling Unloved, Rejected, Worried About Your Relationship with Your Child? Try This... - Janet Lansbury

Janet shares a success story from a parent who describes her shame, heartbreak, “the heavy emotional load” she carried for the first 4 years of her son’s life as he vehemently rejected her care, preferring his father. After reading one of Janet’s articles, this mom began to see her son’s behavior in a whole new … Continued

Janet Lansbury

08.05.2024

Parenting Expectations Have Changed - Kids Haven't (with Maggie Dent) - Janet Lansbury

If you’re the parent of young children, there’s a good chance you are very hard on yourself. Australian parenting guru Maggie Dent joins Janet in this episode to discuss the unprecedented pressures and challenges today’s parents face living up to ever-changing standards set by social media, peers, and even schools. Parents are often left feeling … Continued

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29.04.2024

My Child Refuses Independent Play - Janet Lansbury

With our most loving intentions as parents, we might find ourselves stuck in a full-time role we never wanted—as our child’s playmate and entertainer. In this episode, a mom asks Janet for advice regarding her “bright, busy, extroverted four-year-old girl who loves having my complete attention.” Unfortunately, this parent is feeling she really needs some … Continued

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Mean Kids - Janet Lansbury

Stop Whining - Janet Lansbury

The Joy in Letting Babies Move Freely (with Elsa Chahin) - Janet Lansbury

Too Needy, Too Stubborn, Too Emotional, Too Bossy, Too . . . - Janet Lansbury

If Consequences Aren't Working, Try This Instead - Janet Lansbury

I Don't Like My Kids, and That Breaks My Heart (A Parent Consultation) - Janet Lansbury

Crying, Screaming, Resisting, Sadness - Your Best Responses to Kids' Emotions - Janet Lansbury

Resolving Our Kids' Annoying Behaviors - Janet Lansbury

Embrace the Privilege of Parenthood (With Neha Ruch) - Janet Lansbury

5 Daily Discipline Reminders - Janet Lansbury

How to Calm Ourselves (With Mr. Chazz) - Janet Lansbury

Erratic, Unreasonable Behavior - Janet Lansbury

Less Stress, More Joy This Holiday Season (With Ashlee Eiland) - Janet Lansbury

My Life With Adult Kids - Janet Lansbury

When Kids Don't Seem Motivated (to Potty, Crawl, or Create) - Janet Lansbury

Kids Don't Need Intensive Parenting (and Neither do We!) - Janet Lansbury

Is Disrespect a Tantrum in Disguise? - Janet Lansbury

What’s Too Strict? What’s Not Strict Enough? - Janet Lansbury

Character Building Lessons You Want Your Kids to Learn - Janet Lansbury

Triggered Again: Understanding Our Reactions to Kids' Behaviors (With Elisabeth Corey) - Janet Lansbury

Strict is Loving - Janet Lansbury

Am I Ruining My Child With Respectful Parenting? (A Parent Consultation) - Janet Lansbury

Everything Upsets My Spirited Toddler (A Parent Consultation) - Janet Lansbury

3 Ways to Calm Back-to-School Jitters - Janet Lansbury

Help Kids Realize Their Potential With the Power of Less (With Kim John Payne) - Janet Lansbury

Baffled by "Bad" Behavior? Do This First - Janet Lansbury

The Scoop on Independent Play (And Myths That Get in the Way) - Janet Lansbury

Surviving a Storm of Emotions - Janet Lansbury

Potty Learning: What Kids Need From Us - Janet Lansbury

Angry Flare-Ups - And He’s Only One Year Old (A Parent Consultation) - Janet Lansbury

Family Games Your Kids Will Love - Janet Lansbury

Whining - Janet Lansbury

How to Make Peace With Your Demanding Child - Janet Lansbury

Parenting Differently Wired Kids (with Debbie Reber) - Janet Lansbury

Raising Kids Who Persist Through Struggles - Janet Lansbury

Frustration, Screaming, Aggressive Behavior – When Kids Aren’t Functioning Well - Janet Lansbury

7 Tools to Empower Your Parenting - Janet Lansbury

Feeling Unloved, Rejected, Worried About Your Relationship with Your Child? Try This... - Janet Lansbury

Parenting Expectations Have Changed - Kids Haven't (with Maggie Dent) - Janet Lansbury

My Child Refuses Independent Play - Janet Lansbury

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